I just came across this post and let me tell you, it was awesome! I made the choice to marry (almost) the girl of my dreams, my girlfriend for the past 4 years. No matter what choice you make, you need to “love the one your with”.

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But if you have had your choices and flavours as a man or woman & you are ready to actually really, truly get to know yourself to the core (I don’t mean in an outer world, physical, success/business kind of way), but to rise to another dimension internally, where the next time you meet a gorgeous, smart person, you are attracted to & get to know him or her, ask yourself, when you quit & leave him or her, if you are running from the relationship, the man/wman, or actually from things within yourself you are running from, that resurface in the next relationship. Once a person is ready with all their soul to not give up on the growth happening within themselves & after they have had enough of the flavours that they want to stick & learn to appreciate the flavour that will show them all they are, without running from it, then they are ready to actually possibly consider to grow individually & together in something long-term together. These days giving up on the vision of what you imagined with another is the issue when relationship fall apart, yes mainly because of the illusion of unlimited choice; choice is good but a lifetime is not an unlimited, infinite time, so once you have enough data, choose & stick with your choice. I have seen couples that did that with no regrets & happy after 30 years, not in a ok I am used to you, or I am scared to star all over, or needy kind of way, but in a crazy passionate I still want you, crave you kind of way, yes after 30 years of marriage that started with love. why? the vision for commitment to being love yourself was never lost & when you are love, you don’t have those demands from the other, and really they love being with you, more likely for a long time. I had to learn these lessons with experience, but now as a single woman in my 30s with passions for many things in life & still a love for freedom & choices & growth, I think I finally get that sticking with one person, actually means I am not giving up on the beautiful vision of what 2 people can build.