Comments on: Real Mind Control: The 21-Day No-Complaint Experiment

By: Zach Worthington

Zach Worthington — Fri, 13 Nov 2009 07:29:50 +0000

I think people should stop blabbing to me about things I don’t care about. I’m not asking for mind readers, I am simply recommending guiding conversations with pointed questions rather than an itinerary of thoughts to find the most meaningful and efficient way to communicate.
As for the VIP party, let’s adorn each guest with a toga for starters…

By: Oleg Mokhov

Oleg Mokhov — Fri, 23 Oct 2009 16:09:40 +0000

Hey Tim,

Live life to the fullest by being proactive, not reactive.

Rather than complaining or coping, think of how you can improve your situation or solve the problem. Instead of giving excuses for why you can’t do something, think of how you can.

This bracelet idea is an awesome external force to push you into no-complaint zone. A visual object constantly on your hand to remind you not to complain, but instead seek solutions. Diverting otherwise wasted energy into effective uses for it.

Thanks for sharing the bracelet method and the book,
Oleg

By: Stephen Davenport

Stephen Davenport — Thu, 15 Oct 2009 09:18:12 +0000

People should stop smoking. As an aid to those that quit smoking, the bracelet could be used as a way to stop thinking about smoking. I quit smoking by literally telling myself that I would never think about cigarettes again and I didn’t until I had the strength and self control to think about it. I would also use the bracelet to remind youself to stop thinking about defeat in any form when taking on a new project.

By: Complain-Free «

Complain-Free « — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 10:11:51 +0000

[...] have read such an interesting idea last week on Tim Ferris’s blog . I bet we all contemplated it every once and a while. I know I have. And I might as well do [...]

By: Mo Kunz

Mo Kunz — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 20:53:49 +0000

Tim, I like this concept, I think it is awesome to have a reminder system. I however think that your reframe still has a little negative side to it. If we look at this from a place of “It’s all about me” and knowing that we create everything around us, then we must look within when the a**hole or negative circumstance shows up. They dont just show up, we bring them forth. That circumstance is always a reminder of what is going on inside of us. When the rude guy shows up and delivers his message, rather than get annoyed and think he is a jerk, we can look at what his rude message was about. If we look past what it is that he doesnt want (his complaint) and ask what is it that this guy really wants. We can come up with a list of things such as:
1-He wants to know that he is getting the service that he deserves from our great postal service.
2-He wants to be respected and treated like more than a number.
3-He really wants to hurry home to his family.
4-He wants to whatever it is….

Now that we have the “do want”, we can turn that into coaching for ourselves, because the negative that shows up is usually asking us to make a correction in our own lives, its a reflection of our own inner voice. If you ever notice in those public situations, the people who are happy and on track in their lives will almost never notice or get triggered by this and in fact may think, oh that poor guy must have a lot on his plate and feel sorry for him. The people that are off track or are in self conscious or “beat up” mode are the ones who get triggered and notice how rude he was.

So to some this up, I think its ok to give people feedback but always in a positive way like, Wow, what you just said was kind of rude and didnt sound good, man you must have a lot going on in your world, are you ok? Or even feed back to them their positive message like, Wow, you must be in a hurry and it looks like you are feeling disrespected here… etc. Once we determine what the positive intent behind the negative that shows up, we can look and see where we are looking for that correction in our life and apply it accordingly. Once applied, notice how those negatives disappear until we get off track again :)

I’m out